Aufruf Guidelines

Aufruf Guidelines

The Library Minyan welcomes the celebrations of upcoming weddings. These celebrations, while having unique meaning for the celebrants and their family and friends, take place within the Library Minyan’s ongoing tefillot, and thus should incorporate the Minyan’s traditions and practices. These guidelines are meant to help families planning an Aufruf (literally, “calling up,” in German) so that it is meaningful and enjoyable both for the family and the community.

Scheduling an Aufruf at the Library Minyan

The Library Minyan is always happy to celebrate s’machot with its members. Please contact the Simcha Coordinator ( as soon as the dates are determined. If you are a new or infrequent participant with Library Minyan, we welcome encourage your attendance in the months preceding the event so we can get to know each other better and you can become familiar with us. Both spouses must be Jewish in accordance with the standards of Conservative Judaism, as interpreted by the Senior Rabbi of Temple Beth Am.

Celebration of Same-Sex Relationships: The Library Minyan is pleased to mark same-sex weddings and celebrate them with an Aufruf in the same manner as weddings between parties of the opposite sex. The Library Minyan was the first davening community at Temple Beth Am to host an Aufruf in celebration of an upcoming commitment ceremony in 2008, and we welcome same-sex couples to celebrate with us.

The Aufruf and Synagogue Honors

An Aufruf was originally the honor given to a chatan (groom) of being called for an Aliyah to the Torah on the Shabbat before his wedding. At the Library Minyan, we offer the opportunity for an Aliyah to both members of the couple. Following the Aliyah, a Mi She’Berakh prayer is said, asking God to bless their relationship and their life together. This is the primary and only essential element of an Aufruf celebration.

Depending on what other events are taking place at the Minyan on any particular week, as many as four other Aliyot and additional honors described below may also be available to the families celebrating an Aufruf. Please remind guest receiving an Aliyah to be prepared to recite the blessings before and after the reading, and provide the gabbai for the week with their Hebrew names (in Hebrew or English transliteration), including if the individual is the son or daughter of a Kohen or Levi, by the Wednesday before your Aufruf. Each person receiving any honors must be Jewish in accordance with the standards of Conservative Judaism.

Since we try to make honors in the service available to all members marking s’machot and other events, fewer Aliyot or honors may be available on some weeks; the Simcha Coordinator and the gabbai for the week will finalize specific arrangements with each family.

In addition to Aliyah, the family may wish to utilize one or more of the following synagogue honors:

Ark Openings (two people for each): The Aron Kodesh is opened to take out the Torah for reading, and to return the Torah after it is read. The honor of P’tikha (opening and closing the Aron Kodesh) does not require prior skill or physical strength, other than the ability to stand in front of the congregation for 3-5 minutes. If there are people who you wish to honor who have little or no experience in traditional synagogue participation, this honor would be most appropriate. The gabbai will tell the honorees when to open and close the aron.

Carrying the Torah: This person will receive the Torah scroll from the prayer leader and carry it around the congregation when it is taken from and returned to the aron during the Torah service. Some strength, but no prayer skills are needed. The gabbai will provide directions.

Hagbah and Gelilah: The person honored with Hagbah must be able to lift the Torah from its position on the reader’s table to a position above his or her head, in order to display the open scroll to the congregation. Out of respect to the Torah and the congregation, the person performing this honor must have prior experience lifting the Torah to take this honor. The person honored with Gelilah will help roll, tie and dress the Torah, but does not lift the scroll.

Prayer Leaders and Torah Readers: It can make an Aufruf more meaningful to have members of the couple or their family and friends participate in leading services or reading Torah. Any guest who is given the honor of leading a part of the service should be proficient in the correct nusach (prayer melody), and the Minyan’s ritual procedures (e.g., what is said out loud and/or silently, and whether the Amidah is a short version or full repetition). If unfamiliar with our practices, the requested prayer leader should discuss this with the Gabbai or the Ritual Committee Chair well in advance of the Aufruf.

In the Library Minyan we read the Torah according to the Conservative Movement’s triennial schedule. The appropriate readings for your Aufruf are available from the Gabbai. Anyone reading Torah must know how to read with correct trope (melody) and pronunciation, and must be adequately prepared. We are happy to provide coaching or a chance to practice for anyone needing some help, but this is a “skill” position and requires the necessary expertise. The Gabbai can arrange this.

General Information about Tefillot at the Library Minyan

The Gabbai: Each Library Minyan service is arranged and coordinated by one of the Gabbaim of the Library Minyan. The Gabbai is responsible for selecting those who will be sh’lichei tzibbur (representatives of the community) by leading each section of the tefillot, and for assigning all the honors during the service. The Gabbai is responsible for addressing any unforeseen situations that arise during the service. You can determine the Gabbai for the week of your aufruf by checking our web site (, and you should work closely with him/her to arrange the details of the day, including any family members who may wish to lead parts of the service, read Torah or hafTorah, or deliver a d’var Torah. These arrangements should be completed as soon as possible and at least several weeks in advance to ensure that those roles have not already been assigned.

Greeters: The Library Minyan has a “greeter” at the Chapel door to welcome newcomers who may not be familiar with our minyan, and help guests find kippot and tallitot, Siddurim and Chumashim, and seating. If some of your guests may be unfamiliar with the Minyan and its customs, please alert the Simcha Coordinator and suggest a friend of yours from the Minyan community to help the assigned “greeter” that week.

Flowers: The Minyan does not customarily decorate its davening space with flowers, to avoid problems with scents and allergies. Should you wish to provide a small floral piece, please coordinate it with the Simcha Coordinator and the TBA Facility Coordinator (Amy Rabin, x213).

Ritual Apparel and Attire

Attire: Although the Library Minyan does not have a formal dress code, we expect that all persons attending our services will dress with respect for the congregation, the prayer service, and (most importantly) the One to whom our prayers are directed. Please share this with your guests. Jackets and ties for men are optional, as the family prefers.

Headcover and Tallit for those receiving Honors: Anyone who comes before the congregation to lead any part of the service (prayer leaders, Torah readers, and those having aliyot) or receive an honor that includes carrying or holding the Torah must wear a head covering and tallit. This applies to both men and women. Please share this information with those who you would like to honor. We have a supply of tallitot and headcovers that can be used by guests.

Headcover and Tallit for guests: All men attending the service are requested to wear a headcover. Simple coverings for both men and women are available for guests to use. The Library Minyan welcomes all Jewish adults to wear a tallit if it is their personal practice to do so.


Each community has its own customs and standards of appropriate synagogue behavior. We hope that you will share this information on the Library Minyan’s customs and expectations with your guests.

Talking: We hope that all who attend services with us will respect the service and the leaders of the service through their attentive participation, and limit conversation to occasional quiet whispers. There should be no talking during the Torah and HafTorah reading and the d’var Torah.

Coming and Going: It is our custom to avoid entering or leaving the room during certain parts of the service: during the kedushah, when the Torah is being read, and during the d’var Torah. We appreciate your cooperation.

Young Children: The Library Minyan welcomes young children to join their parents at services. Feel free to bring books, snacks, and toys to help them pass the time happily and quietly. Children are welcome to come forward during the ark opening and to join in singing Adon Olam at the end of the service. If children become restive, parents may take them to the nearby lobby or playground. We expect that children may talk or cry on occasion, but we appreciate quiet particularly during the Torah reading and the d’var Torah.

Photography, Videography & Other Electronics: The Library Minyan does not allow the use of any sound or video recording devices, or any electronic devices other than the microphone system, on Shabbat or Chagim – either before or during services, or at a Kiddush/lunch afterwards. Guests who are not on-call medical professionals should silence cell phones, etc., before entering Temple Beth Am.

Throwing Candy: The family is welcome to provide SOFT candies to toss gently at the couple after their aliyah and the accompanying Mi She’Berakh are completed.


As part of celebrating with the Library Minyan community, it is our hope that a couple celebrating an Aufruf share their simcha with the Library Minyan congregation by sponsoring a festive congregational kiddush following the service. Both in-house and outside catering options are available. Please contact the Kiddush Coordinator ( for advice about this.

 Clergy Remarks

If the family would like one of the Rabbis of Temple Beth Am to speak to the couple following the Aufruf Aliyah, please let the gabbai know, so that we can coordinate the timing of Rabbi’s remarks with the Rabbi’s other obligations at TBA that Shabbat.

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